“Ever since I can remember my father would physically abuse me. My father was a dictator and there was no way my mother could interfere. One time he was beating me so hard my mother tried to stop it. While my little brother was crying, she begged my father to stop hitting me. She said: ’‘if you keep hitting him, he is going to hate you one day!”. My father had an important job at the airport with many responsibilities and together with my mother he worked in a bar at night. They would be away a lot so my grandmother took care of my brother and I. Later on my grandmother got Alzheimer and she could no longer look after us. My father hired an acquaintance to be our babysitter. He would play games with me such as strip poker. He made me take off my clothes and he sexually abused me for 3 years. I never told my parents about the abuse. I think I was too ashamed, I felt it was my own fault. I was 18 when I confronted my parents with it, they thought I was lying. That’s when my brother interrupted the conversation and said: “Michel is right.” My dad asked him how he knew for sure. My brother replied: “Because it also happened to me..” (¼)

“Five years ago a colleague of mine started a project called Amsterdam Underground. It’s a project which allows ex-addicts to give a tour through the “Red light district” and to share their personal story. When I had the possibility to become a part of this project, I didn’t hesitate for a second. One of my clients, her name is Sonja, was someone I really wanted to involve in this project. We have a very good connection, and even though she was very insecure she said yes. We practiced the tour for three days in a row. Every time something went wrong, she had this little voice in her head telling her that she couldn’t do it , that she wasn’t good enough. I tried to be the other voice telling her that she could and that she was good enough. It’s a big deal to share your story in front of such a group of strangers. During the first tour I stood right by her side to make sure she knew she wasn’t on her own. For addicts or ex-addicts, it’s not easy to make new friends or to attend social gatherings. When you have been addicted to heroin for 25 years it’s hard to engage in small talk. I try to remind them that they are now tour guides and that they do very important work. It’s work they can be proud of and tell at birthday parties.“ (3/3)

“Loneliness is something many addicts deal with. In the end of the day they all want to belong somewhere, be a part of something. After working in the facility for a while, I decided to go back to school and learn about methods on how to be a better mentor. Now I’m able to coach them and try to help them getting their life back. Whenever I have a conversation with addicts, I always try to take them back to the person they used to be before they were addicted. I ask them about what they enjoyed doing as a child or what kind of dreams they had. I try to ask them the right questions so that we can make a plan. I don’t make the plan for them, I’m just there to ask the right questions.” (2/3)

“For 20 years I worked in a bar. When I turned 40 I realized I wanted to do something else with my life. I had very little self-confidence and I did not know what I was good at. I applied for all different kind of jobs, I even tried to become a flight attendant. A friend of mine was working at The Rainbow Group, a facility for homeless and addicts. He told me that there was a position open at the facility. I applied for the job as a coordinator and despite the fact that I had no experience, I got hired. I had no idea what to expect and the first two weeks I was in shock. At the facility people are allowed to use drugs. For the first time I saw people injecting heroin into their veins. After two weeks I felt more comfortable and I noticed that I managed to bond really well with the people in the facility. I wasn’t judging anything they were saying or doing and that’s why they trusted me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not the Dalai Lama. I have my opinions but I’m not bringing them with me to work.” (1/3)

“We have that kind of friendship where we can go to a party without consuming a single drop of alcohol and still have the time of our lives..”